Gabrielle is writing an illustrated guide book on sex called 'How To Do It.' At a book signing she meets Saul, an established male writer who is straight. She both loves and hates his work which has seeped into her secular Jewish life from childhood. The more Gabrielle tells him about her book the more he wants to know about her life; the relationship with her younger girlfriend Olivia and her determination to stop using my penis in sex. As her book takes form, is Saul jealous or desirous Their friendship is tested as is Gabrielle's relationship with Olivia. The film muses on how we write, how we draw. And the nature of story and what it makes us do.

《要或不要》展示了铤而走险的勇气和非同寻常的选择如何从根本上改变了一个普通人的生活，又是如何使平凡的主角脱胎换骨，成为日常生活中的英雄。在一个睡意朦胧的星期六清晨，三十岁的建筑工人埃里克得知了一个惊天动地的消息：他六个月未见的前女友莫妮卡即将分娩。然而，莫妮卡还没有做好当妈妈的准备，如果埃里克也不想要这个孩子，那么初生的女婴就会被送到领养机构。埃里克是要她还是不要她呢？本片代表爱沙尼亚出征2019年第91届奥斯卡最佳外语片的角逐。